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30 August 2006 @ 08:43 pm
 
Ah, I see why I dislike going shopping, etc. by myself. It's a fear of looking like I don't know wtf I'm doing. Everyone else is so calm and collected. And I feel so lost. Which is why I prefer going with someone else who knows wtf they're doing, so I can latch onto them. But I must keep reminding myself that I don't have to know exactly what I'm doing or where I'm going. You learn things from having done them, so going out on my own is helping me to become more comfortable with things. Like driving; I started out all nervous, but now it's become routine. Yeah, I think it all comes down to a fear of looking stupid, of doing something wrong. Is this a social variant manifesting itself? I need approval, to be as competent as the rest of the crowd. And that's why people scare me. Because if I mess up, I fear what they will think. Silly girl. How to secure oneself against the world?
 
 
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fl0werchyldefl0werchylde on August 31st, 2006 03:06 am (UTC)
Silly girl. How to secure oneself against the world?

When you find out, let me know.
Draco: Psychologydracowayfarer on August 31st, 2006 04:33 am (UTC)
That which does not kill us...

What helped me was learning to accept myself and my lack of knowledge in some things and accept that sometimes I have to ask questions and look stupid once so that I can know better the next time. Nobody will remember or care that I asked a question or that I didn't know what to do that one time as long as I learn from it.
CriScO: C n' M Happycrisco747 on August 31st, 2006 09:22 am (UTC)
Considering everyone else to be an idiot seems to work for me. :)

I should start sending you out on random tasks to make you get used to it. "Hey woman, go get me beer!" j/j!

Nah, I'm to protective to send you out alone.