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26 May 2005 @ 08:30 pm
 
Hm, I think I’ve confirmed that I am a social variant. I’m trying to discover why I have such a hard time opening up to people, and it comes down to the fact that I am afraid I won’t be liked. My inner self is precious to me, and I am very sensitive and fragile, and so I withhold my inner self because I am afraid of letting others see it and judge it. If they don’t see me, then there is nothing to dislike, but unfortunately, there is nothing to like either. So I end up feeling alone in the world, and I yearn for understanding. But I play the part of the quiet loner, because it’s safer that way. Withdrawing to protect the self is a Four thing in general, but I think a social variant contributes to it. And, one’s variant often times manifests as the opposite of itself, so social variants become very asocial and avoidant. It seems to fit the most for me.
 
 
 
Marianneresplendentposy on May 28th, 2005 11:37 pm (UTC)
I was trying to decide between social and sexual too. It's the same way, that some of the statements apply and some don't. I couldn't really see myself as definitely one variant or the other. I think in general I am more social though. I think I worry more about what people think of me than about having an intimate connection with someone. I would have to read more about the variants though to get a better idea of them.