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21 September 2003 @ 07:38 pm
Here is a question... How does one meet guys? Obviously it involves getting out of the house more than once every two months. I'll have to work on that... But where does one go? What does one do? I only ever leave the house for things like dentist appointments and to go shopping. And, honestly, I'm not interested in much else... Doing things with friends might be fun, but all my friends are online, and so that is where I spend most of my time.

I don't know, going out specifically to meet people just seems.. odd... I'm too young for the bar scene. Do I just hang out at the coffee shop and look pretty, and hope some guy asks to sit down? Why does this whole process seem ridiculous? Can't someone just buy me a boy? They must have a store around here somewhere... Or maybe a handsome prince will ride in and make all my dreams come true...

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|\|¡|<progress on September 21st, 2003 06:56 pm (UTC)
library, large bookstores like Barnes & Noble where you can sit and read a book from cover to cover without buying it, internet (can actually work, but not highly recommended because the rate of return is odd and sometimes unacceptable)... bars SUCK for meeting people unless you're into people who drink.

and the whole process seems ridiculous because it is.

(by the way, James LaBrie is 20 feet away from me right now, singing the chorus to the Gene Machine while henning runs the board. feel special that I'm taking time out to answer your question.)
Marianneresplendentposy on September 22nd, 2003 06:30 pm (UTC)
You will have to say hi to him for me. And, um.. if they ever decide to make a movie version of SFaM, you know a girl who could play Victoria. (Not exactly Winona Ryder.. but close!) *grin*
(Anonymous) on September 21st, 2003 08:43 pm (UTC)
Believe me, its the same exact thing for guys too. Some day you'll probably meet someone who you want to be with, but at that time you might just end up like me and be too nervous tell the person that you like them lol.

-a very boared person with nothing better to do
Richcpiseco on September 21st, 2003 09:08 pm (UTC)
You can meet guys anywhere, really. But I would only give them a second glance if they are somewhere you like being to begin with.

You like to shop? Perhaps you meet one who is shopping around for a few of the same things in the same store you like? Perhaps a coffee shop and yeah, like your friend said up there, Barnes and Noble would probably be good too.

Stay away from bars, heh. Bar scenes suck for meeting people.

Have a pet, perhaps a dog? Go to the park and walk him. That sort of thing.

If you want to meet one, you'll bring yourself to go out and meet one. You'll know when you're ready to.
nathannateaintemo on September 22nd, 2003 06:06 am (UTC)
Agreed. Stay away from the bars, nothin but trouble. Go to bars to drink.
castration.of.the.heartarima_goku on September 21st, 2003 09:42 pm (UTC)
I like to meet people at shows, then I at least know that we have the same music interest. But I found that the best way to meet people is to not expect to. I mean one of my coolest friends I met in a parking lot outside a movie theater.

When you find that store where you can buy people, let me know. I hope they sell girls… but if not, then anyone who would help me do dishes would be great.
Jade Deathjadedeath on September 21st, 2003 09:55 pm (UTC)
I dinae get the nickname for nothin...
*rides in and kneels at your feet*

*hands you a dozen roses and kisses your hand*

*rides of leaving you in a big heap of sexual frustration* *LOL*

nathannateaintemo on September 22nd, 2003 06:05 am (UTC)
yea, seriously, there is no skill really required in meeting guys, but hoping will not do it. Here's what you do. First, put the computer down, and step away. Second, have fun. Go out with your friends, enjoy yourself, go do the things you want to do. Most importantly be yourself. Nothing worse then meeting a cute girl who says and acts one way, but when she gets comfortable pulls the reversi move. You can't be uptight about it, it may seem odd but you need to put that in the back of your mind.

Meeting guys (and girls) is all about confidence. If you go out with the attitude that this 'isn't right' or it 'feels odd' is going to put you in a rather strange mood when prince charming does arrive.

Just get out there, give them the triple deke(sp) and remember, going out and meeting guys is about having fun. :poke: Most important.
Vivinusvivinus on September 22nd, 2003 11:47 am (UTC)
Most easy way to meeting guys:

Step One: Stop sitting on your computer doing nothing for 10 hours a day.

Step Two: Go outside.

Step Three: Don't be a bitch about anything.
Vivinusvivinus on September 22nd, 2003 11:50 am (UTC)
And I'm being absolutely serious, not a smartass.

Sitting on your computer doing technically nothing for ten hours a day gets you nowhere.

Going outside- Especially when you have social anxiety, is something you NEED to get used to. It will be the most difficult thing to do, but the more you do it, the more you get used to it, just like anything else in life.

And not being a bitch? Well, you can be pretty bitchy about a lot of things, and girls the bitchy type of girls are the most unattractive girls you can ever meet.
Valore Black aka Joshua, Resident Shadowside Boy: rawrshadowsider on September 22nd, 2003 04:23 pm (UTC)
this is gonna sound odd but..
find a good friend who is also flaming gay.. and go clubbing with him. Seriously.

There are str8 guys at gay clubs these days. They go there with friends who are gay, just to hang out, drink etc. And since there are usually girls there, who come to dance with their buddies.. well there's just a lot less competition and all. ::grin::

Added bonus is you know the guy isn't gonna be uptight, cuz otherwise wtf is he doing in a gay club, right?